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Date Posted: 22:42:48 09/13/09 Sun
Author: p
Subject: Re: Floundering in my decision.
In reply to: Ava 's message, "Floundering in my decision." on 15:36:54 09/13/09 Sun

Ava,

I'm so sorry for the long-term hurt this has caused you.

What is YOUR definition of monogamy? That's the definition that matters.

He IS being unfaithful every time he sits down at the computer. Is he suggesting that asking for blow-jobs from countless men is somehow different from having sex? Got news for him, oral sex is sex. Every kind of sex is sex.
AND every one of those encounters risks Y O U R life.

It doesn't matter how he identifies himself.
He isn't str8. More important, he isn't honest.
There is nothing at all homophobic about suggesting you deserve something/someone else. He can be gay or bi. It needn't compromise you emotionally or physically any longer.

You asked, so here's the short answer: get out.

Be his friend for as long as it's comfortable for you. You're not responsible for his psyche. He didn't choose to be gay (and he is). He chose to lie to you, time after time. This choice isn't likely to change. It IS likely to be better-hidden until he decides (again) he wants to be caught.

Of course he wants things to remain the same. You're his cover. He gets to pretend to be str8 when it suits him and he gets to be gay when he chooses. In the meantime you get to keep compromising more and more of yourself.

Love yourself enough to decide that when you are alone you are in wonderful company. You've been alone and lonely with this man beside you and under the same roof.

...just my oh-pinion.
p

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  • Re: Floundering in my decision. -- David (move on), 12:52:22 09/14/09 Mon
  • Re: Floundering in my decision. -- jj, 15:30:19 09/14/09 Mon
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