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Date Posted: 17:32:05 03/25/16 Fri
Author: WendiT
Subject: Re: Husbands bisexual confession after 10 years
In reply to: Alison 's message, "Husbands bisexual confession after 10 years" on 16:18:18 03/25/16 Fri

Your H is exhibiting pretzel logic. His arguments are faulty, illogical, twisted and circular. Don't let him drag you into his fallible thinking. He is trying to take you into a "muddled mess". Don't go there. You should not be guilted into doing something you are not comfortable with. Moreover, if your relationship was based on honesty, trust, and monogamy

He knew about and was active in SSA prior to marriage. Bottom line is that he had a duty to disclose this prior to entering into a committed marriage. He robbed you of your choice. Now he wants you to blindly consent to an open relationship and is blaming you for not acquiescing. And really this is a B-I-G deal. If it was not a big deal he would have told you about sex with men before you said "I do". Straight women don't want to couple with gay men. So yeah, it is a big deal. It is also a really big deal if you thought your commitment was based on honesty, truth, and monogamy.

You are not to blame here. You did nothing wrong and you are entitled to your feelings. Read the postings here. There is a lot of examples and great advice which may really help you gain some clarity. You are not alone. This happens to more people than you would think.

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Re: Husbands bisexual confession after 10 years -- WendiT (Wish there was a "edit" button), 17:51:28 03/25/16 Fri