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Date Posted: 17:04:55 05/15/16 Sun
Author: Laurence
Subject: Re: Feeling horribly sad and reaching out to know I am not alone
In reply to: Sue 's message, "Feeling horribly sad and reaching out to know I am not alone" on 15:01:50 05/15/16 Sun

It certainly sucks to know that time you have with the kids is less. Also to know that a complete stranger is spending time with them hurts too. But as people have said before this a process. Maybe focus on what you can change and control and master that. Don't get into a competition with them over the kids- you've already 'won' that in that you are their mom. As for communication, trips etc I would look at this stuff as a short battle in a long war. In one sense I think our ex partners tend to use our kids to try and bring legitimacy to their new relationship. Maybe your ex partner wants to portray family life as some Norman Rockwell ideal that he can just slip into. But this is something you can't control. Also kids grow up and they aren't stupid ( well some of the time) and eventually they'll be able to choose for themselves.

Don't get me wrong - i know this stuff rips your insides out with grief and anger. I had a good cry in the car today.

As someone said here the best revenge is a life well lived and that is what I'm aiming for.

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Re: Feeling horribly sad and reaching out to know I am not alone -- Mary (Rescue yourself), 17:22:57 05/15/16 Sun

Re: Feeling horribly sad and reaching out to know I am not alone -- Rob (Your right), 18:58:12 05/15/16 Sun