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Date Posted: 21:08:20 05/15/16 Sun
Author: Doug
Subject: Re: Feeling horribly sad and reaching out to know I am not alone
In reply to: Sue 's message, "Feeling horribly sad and reaching out to know I am not alone" on 15:01:50 05/15/16 Sun

Sue, I know how awful depression feels. I know the pain of not thinking it will ever get better. I have spent a good deal of my time since my divorce pretending to be something I just don't feel that I am anymore...myself, or rather who I used to be. I too am part of the 40s club and feel that not only was I tricked into believing that the only person I ever really loved and trusted loved me as well, but in the end felt such anger for how she stole my young adult life from me. I had gone back to school, was on the verge of a promising medical career, had started a family...everything I ever wanted. Then to learn that my child wasn't going to have the family he deserved and that I was about to be turned into an ATM was beyond any pain I could ever imagine. It has been a few years now and I am still haunted by the betrayal. I am gathering from your post that you are taking antidepressants. Good. Please talk to your doctor, it may be time for an increase in your dose. In addition, please seek out a therapist to speak with. The literature has shown antidepressants rarely work alone, but worked wonderfully combined with therapy. I only know you through your posts, but it is my impression you are a wonderful woman who didn't deserve what happened to her, and doesn't deserve the current darkness which impregnates your daily life. I agree with the suggestions to "not be the victim" and to live life fully. I just also know that these salient pieces of advice seem impossible to you right now. They sure do at times for me. But you must endure these dark days and do what you can to convince yourself that you have the power to overcome. Right now you need help doing this. Please seek out that help.

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Re: Feeling horribly sad and reaching out to know I am not alone -- Sue, 23:43:01 05/15/16 Sun