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Date Posted: 11:43:53 05/18/16 Wed
Author: Ilene
Subject: Online Dating Site

I just discovered that my husband of 25 years has been on a gay online dating site. He set up a profile and has been paying a fee to the site every six months and even upgraded his membership. From what I can tell from the credit card statements that I found that alerted me to his membership on the site, he has been on the site for the past 3 years. When I confronted him, he initially denied he ever heard of the site until I showed him the credit card statements. Then he tried to blame them on an error on the credit card company until he finally came clean to me two days later. He then told me he was on them purely just to look at pictures of other guys. He said there was never any communication and he never hooked up with any of the guys. I told him he was insulting my intelligence if he thougth I would believe that story. First, he said the pictures filled a void. I told him pictures can be found in any porn magazine, porn movie, YouTube clip. This was a dating site which he set up a profile. He wouldn't let me see the profile. He deleted it before I could get to it. He now claims he was just exploring. He says it was a phase. My husband and I haven't had a vacation together in 10 years, we haven't gone out together either alone or with other couples in years. Our sex life is nonexistent. We have 3 kids, two of whom are boys and have graduated college and are living away from home and my daughter who is in high school have a very distant relationship with my husband, but are extremely close with me. I told my husband he needs to take time to figure out what he wants but we are in such a financial bind, we can't afford for him to move out. Any suggestions on how to handle this? I know we need to separate but I don't know how we can when we just can't afford two places to live.

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