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Date Posted: 11:39:40 05/23/16 Mon
Author: Casseopia
Subject: Thank you Zombie
In reply to: Z Walker 's message, "Re: Sexual abuse as a young boy and TGT" on 09:56:37 05/23/16 Mon

Thank you again for sharing this. You write with a lot of honesty and eloquence. The fact you are on this forum ten years after finding out what your husband was doing tells me a lot. And that you still don't trust him 100% after all of this time tells me that if I stay with my husband, I will almost certainly be in the same situation as you in ten year's time.

I have reluctantly come to the conclusion that I cannot go forward with my very new (only a few months old) marriage for all of the reasons you have mentioned and a few more.

I still swing between yes and no almost daily and I expect that will continue for a little while as I settle into my final decision - but I am now at a stage where most days are a No and there are only the occasional days when I wonder if we could be ok.

Thank you for taking the time to share your story, which is almost identical to mine. And yes, we should always have come first - before their traumas and hurts and issues. I have issues, as I'm sure you do, but I was always able to put my husband first. I was faithful, open and honest for all of our four and a half years, despite anything I was feeling or going through.

I hope you manage to find some peace.

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