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Date Posted: 23:29:50 05/24/16 Tue
Author: Still Wondering
Subject: Re: So lost
In reply to: Ziki 's message, "So lost" on 22:28:40 05/24/16 Tue

Hi Ziki,

I'm sorry you're here. You've made the same mistake almost all of us have made when we first got here. You're apologetic for not wanting to support him but to support yourself instead. If he had told you "gee I'm sorry, but I like another woman" would you feel bad that you're not being supportive of him and feel bad that you want time for yourself? He has pulled a rug out from underneath you - where's YOUR support?

Even if the last five years have been five years of great friendship, great love, great times, and great sex, do you really believe he didn't have any idea? Did you decide to remain boyfriend/girlfriend for five years or did he not want to get married? These questions may or may not apply, but typically there's a pattern with people who end up at this site.

If you don't live with him you have every right to tell him to leave you be for xxx time period while you gather your thoughts alone. This is essentially a break up and if you chose to never speak to him again it's well within your rights.

I know it feels like you'll never get over it but trust me, you will. It may take a while but one day you'll be so glad that you were told the truth. Come here for support as often as you need it. It will be hard and sad and there will be days where you want to cry all day - it's the same as a bad break up or divorce except that you're expected to be supportive. Keep reading here.

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Re: So lost -- Ziki, 12:06:55 05/25/16 Wed
- Re: So lost -- Still wondering (Don't be embarrassed), 12:27:49 05/25/16 Wed