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Date Posted: 00:47:57 05/25/16 Wed
Author: Veronica
Subject: My husband is a bisexual cross dresser

So here is my story
5 years ago I found out my husband was cross dressing and contacting others who did the same and I found references to himself calling himself bisexual. At that time he told me he had not been with anyone that it's all just been dressing going out while on the road in different cities (long distance truck driver). And that the online was just flirting and a way to relieve stress without doing anything. I always thought of myself as being pretty open minded, he has never come out so we did a couple of Halloween events where he dressed as a man and I as a woman. I was pretending and fooling myself that I was ok with it. Then I had a full hysterectomy before age 50 including my ovaries, so my hormone levels are dropping all over the place and sex or any intimacy is the last thing I want. Now 3 years have gone by and there is 0 intimacy in my marriage, he is wanting there to be I just have no desire and we blamed it on the surgery. He's had a full beard for the past year so I know he's not dressing and going out in public anymore.
I was doing some soul searching one afternoon and the whole reality of the situation hit me like a ton of bricks - I have not had sex with my husband for 3 years because he's a bisexual transvestite/ transgender / cross dresser ( I don't know the correct term and don't want to offend anyione). I started crying, left the house and walked 8km before I could pull myself together.

Last week we went out on a date night and had a blast it was like things were when we met 22 years ago and I decided I wanted my husband back. The next day he left his phone at home and I noticed an email notification for Yahoo Mail (not the email provider he usually uses) password was pretty easy to hack and low and behold he has been answering ads on Craigslist from guys looking for fishing buddies.

So I confronted him, told him regardless I am not leaving and I'm not outing him. I love him and at this point in my life I'm not willing to give up or loose everything we have built together in the past 22 years. I needed to know if he has ever acted on his desires, if that is the lifestyle he wants or if he wants to work on us finding the Spark and passion we once had.

He chose me. Again he swears he has never actually been with a man and that it only been online says it's a bit of a game to him and that he's tired of it.

So we have a romantic weekend away planned this coming weekend and I plan on making love to my husband for the first time in 3 years.

As for the relationship, will we be able to repair and rebuild? All I can do is try and hope but I'm not stupid this part of him may not be something he can turn off and maybe there will be a day when he chooses to come out and leaves me for someone else.

For the first time since all this started I don't feel alone. I'm thankful for the opportunity to tell my story
Thank you

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