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Date Posted: 08:53:48 05/29/16 Sun
Author: Ruby
Subject: Re: Feels like I'm dying
In reply to: Josie 's message, "Feels like I'm dying" on 06:22:38 05/29/16 Sun

Being conflicted and feeling confused are completely normal responses in your situation. You invested everything into your marriage and you just discovered that the foundation is sand and not rock. Your head is saying leave and your heart is saying stay.

My suggestion is to take a breath. Nothing has to be done today. I suggest you start by not confronting him any more. Take some time apart. Spend the time getting smart so that you can start taking informed decisions. You are ahead of the game because you have a job that can support you and your daughter. Now, go see a lawyer. Find out what your legal options are. See a doctor. Tell him you just found out that your husband is gay and want to be tested for STDs. Stop having sex with him.SOHQ Find a trusted friend, clergy man, therapist, sister to help you sort through your thoughts.

The best advice I got before my heart caught up with my head was to go through with a divorce. You will get lots of valuable information about him and yourself going through the process. You can always talk about reconcilliation after it is final when you are in a more stable place.

Remember your daughter will watch everything. Think about what you want her to expect from a marriage: honesty, faithfulness? You have an opportunity to show her what a strong woman is.

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