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Date Posted: 22:19:06 05/31/16 Tue
Author: Sue (bringing the boyfriend)
Subject: Re: Anniversary
In reply to: Rob 's message, "Re: Anniversary" on 18:42:19 05/31/16 Tue

He absolutely brings the bf to EVERYTHING. They've only known each other since Halloween and have signed a one year lease on a house. They met 6 whole weeks after he left me.

I have figured out something about the bf. He has never been in the closet (although he was married to a man when my husband met him, so they broke up another relationship) and I think he always wanted children. So everything he does for the kids is one big game. Last weekend was Disney. Yahoo.

Kel tells me (rightly) that I should be happy if the kids are happy. But I am utterly heartbroken, because those are the things I used to do with our family. And I never will be able to afford them. Nor will I be able to give my 13 year old her own room, which will be yet another factor driving her toward her rich doctor father's house and away from her poor mother. Who put her rich father through med school and residency.

Anyway, the point is that my husband (we are not divorced yet) apparently has NO compassion or thought for how I might feel should the boyfriend show up for every event. Especially those that fall on our wedding anniversary. He didn't say a word to me. I have a card from last year telling me he would love me forever and stay with me forever. Then the "bisexual" can blew open and by August he was out the door.

I'll never understand how he can be so completely insensitive, but whatever love he had for me, or even friendship, or just plain old humaneness toward me went out the window. I am the cause of everything that went wrong. His sexuality was just a side element in his leaving, with no warning.

I'm still gobsmacked. I hope someday I won't care. But he broke up our family. My kids have issues, I have issues, there are huge financial issues for me, and he's got his Audi and his new home and trips out of town every other weekend. I am just praying the alimony sets him back. And that I can find a job. And be a single mom to 3 kids. And smile again.

Right now I just can't believe this is my effing life and the person I loved with my entire heart for 20 years is the cause of so much pain, heartache, and devastation.

I hate him and I love him. Or at least who he pretended to be.

I just hope his bf dumps his ass, but then again, why should he ... he's hooked up with a guy who makes a ton of money and just provided him with an automatic new family. It's like a fucking teenage party over there.

I feel like I birthed three children as a surrogate so two gay guys could have the time of their lives. And that sucks.

Sorry to go on and on. I am so angry and lost and hurt. I have a lot of hardship to go through before I get to the other side of this mess.

AND I haven't had sex in 10 months. Which is making me grumpier!!! ;-)

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