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Date Posted: 15:35:53 08/06/16 Sat
Author: lily
Subject: Re: Limbo
In reply to: Sue 's message, "Re: Limbo" on 20:13:57 08/05/16 Fri

Hi Sue, I don't know if this helps but sometimes when faced with an intractable problem it helps to stop thinking about it as a problem and start seeing what is solves.

On that line I can then think well now that you know how callous and hurtful he is towards you you can stop caring about him. at all. You can exit limbo land forthwith. let the healing commence. you really are that attractive woman, you really are loving and kind.

and this is the hard part, you really are living your life and it sucks in a situational way. but you are free to handle it your way without reference to him. he is part of your situation and you have to deal with him but you don't refer let alone defer now. you are your own woman.

I have been living alone for nearly 3 years now but I did 15 years sleeping on the sofa before I made it out of there. every day in that period of time I was improving, tough as it was, terrible at times, I was making my way out of the fun house, rebuilding my life and this was happening because I was emotionally protecting myself from him and his jibes at my sanity and confidence at last.

sending you hugs.

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Re: Limbo -- Sue, 22:31:57 08/08/16 Mon
Re: Limbo -- Lori, 13:50:10 08/27/16 Sat