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Date Posted: 21:29:48 01/03/17 Tue
Author: Patti (ask a str8 man)
Subject: Re: suspicions
In reply to: char 's message, "Re: suspicions" on 11:39:20 03/03/16 Thu

He's saying whatever he believes you will believe.

Ask a str8 man if he has ANY desire to have sex with men.

Love may be "enough" for some. I wasn't willing to share. I wasn't willing to be celibate while he screwed his boyfriend. I wasn't willing to expect a str8 lover (if one would desire me) to deal with the concept of me still living with my gay husband.

In the words of our very wise couple's therapist: "Sometimes you have to love each other enough to say, 'enough'." We did. I am infinitely happier. I wish the same for him. That said, his happiness is not my responsibility; turns out it never was.

Best of luck....to "get through anything", in my experience, does not mean self-sacrifice to the point of self-destruction for a str8 spouse.

Patti in SD

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