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Date Posted: 01:07:47 10/24/17 Tue
Author: Sweet1
Subject: Husband doesn't want to be gay

I have been with my husband for 8 years now. Ill call him C. We had issues with our sex life for years but I kept making excuses for it. Last year it led to me having an affair. When C found out I confronted him about his sexuality and asked him if he was gay. He admitted "yes I sometimes have feelings for men" and said that he avoided having sex with me because he would think about men and it made him feel dirty. He's Catholic and doesn't we t to be gay. I felt so many things when this happened. We had a son together, and we decided to try to work it out for him and because we didn't want our marriage to be over. But then I fell in love with someone else. I'll call him J. C would fight with me because he suspected that I had feelings for J, and C was lusting after him too. This led to a fight where C got angry enough to strangle me in front of our 2 year old son. After that night I left him and was with J. A couple weeks later I found out I was pregnant. The last time I was physical with my husband was the night before he strangled me. I didn't know for sure who the father was. I didn't know what to do, it led to some very ugly fights with C and his family. He came out to them, but then told them ask he was "getting over it/was over it " because he had been physical with a man and decided that's not what he wanted. I ended up going back to him because i had very severe depression while i was pregnant and couldn't handle my grief of not being with my son all the time. But J is in love with me too and wants to be with me. C doesn't want us to divorce. He says that he prays and God takes away his temptation and that I don't have enough faith in God to save our marriage and that I'm just giving up. I don't know what to do. I'm not in love with him anymore, that faith and blind trust I used to have in him is gone. I don't want to be physical with him anymore. I don't hold his hand or kiss him. I'm here for my kids and that's it. He knows this. But he doesn't believe God would make a family just to rip it apart... what am I supposed to do? We now have 2 children this affects and he says he'll keep them from me if I leave...

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Re: Husband doesn't want to be gay -- Sweet1, 01:23:14 10/24/17 Tue
Re: Husband doesn't want to be gay -- phoenix, 09:17:00 10/27/17 Fri