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Subject: You're Right. Ben, It Is Often Younger Girls Who Do It Author: Cheryl [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 17:00:50 07/04/09 Sat In reply to: Carol 's message, ""Unnecessary" Is The Word That Bothers People" on 23:21:45 06/12/09 Fri Ben has observed that younger aides seem to do a lot of the preps. I wonder why that seems to be true. I also wonder if these young girls also shave female patients. We have not heard from any female patients yet, so we don't know. It does seem that older nurses consider preps to be drudge work, and if that is true, it would explain why the younger girls are given those jobs. I wonder if they ever consider the embarrassment factor when assigning who will prep men. If it has to be a woman doing the prep, most men, I am sure, would find a young woman much more embarrasisng than an older nurse. Or don't they even consider patient comfort about who does it? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: "Unnecessary" Is The Word That Bothers People Author: rk [Edit] Date Posted: 04:46:02 07/05/09 Sun Patient comfort is one of the main missions of nursing. Yet it's rationalized away in situations like this. It's psychologically safe for nurses just to assume that men don't mind if they don't speak up. Anyway, there's much work to do and the job just has to be done. So get it done, anyway you can. Nurses don't always have a male nurse available, and when the do they often don't want to bother the male nurse. If they do that too much they may be considered not competent to handle these sensitive situations with male intimate care, which they are expected to do. Nurses are taught that embarrassment is natural and just needs to be dealt with. They are taught or learn on the job strategies that they think mitigate embarrassment. Some of these strategies may work. Some don't. But the problem is that there are no universal strategies for all patients. Each patient is different and needs to be treated as an individual. That takes time, which isn't always available. And the big problem is male psychology -- men are socialized to just take it, to suck it up, to not complain, to be a big boy and not cry. Be macho. Take it like a man. So many of them do and don't speak up. But they hold their grief and humiliation and embarrassment inside and resent like hell what happened to them. I think this contributes in some way to why men don't seek health care as often as women do. The bedside caregiving aspects of health care are dominated by females. Many men have had bad experiences and don't feel welcome or respected within that system. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]