| Subject: Re: Dealing with resistant kids |
Author:
claire
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Date Posted: 13:26:12 07/11/03 Fri
In reply to:
Dana
's message, "Dealing with resistant kids" on 18:56:12 02/28/03 Fri
You're right - the ps would demand you put him on medication. (experience speaking here!) My son is 15 now but what you describe sounds SOOOO familiar. Be encouraged. Much of the symptoms you describe will go away with maturity; some are there because you said it -- he is bored. Our family started a private sign to Ben when we detected him winding himself up. Ours was a firm hand on his shoulder. This reminded him to be aware of his movements and his thinking pattern "what will happen next if I do this?" It helped when in public so as to not embarrass him but to also make him learn self-discipline. Also another bit of advice. Instead of taking away priviledges....reward him when you notice him doing something well! Like the times he does sit still, he does his work, he cooperates with his siblings, he is obedient, he minds his manners. Any little thing! Give him opportunity to shine! Trust me, being in trouble all the time is not good -- if you take everything away, he figures he has nothing to lose if he does misbehave.
By the way, this child is the one who benefits the most from being homeschooled. I could have saved alot of heartache and frustration if I'd started earlier. I began homeschooling Ben out of a last resort attitude -- all along I should have done it in kindergarten when they told me "He doesn't conform". Go figure!
One last thing-- just love him for who God created him to be. That's the best gift of all. Let him know he is loveable. Other than that he'll do great. You'll see. By the grace of God, Ben is doing fabulously --- better than any body expected. Trust.
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