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Subject: Re: Cyber Sex – Is it Cheating? Author: Becca [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 22:28:11 12/16/03 Tue In reply to: Chris 's message, "Re: Cyber Sex – Is it Cheating?" on 09:05:24 03/05/03 Wed It happened to me... I think it's cheating if you feel hurt by it. that seems to be a very popular opinion. I've recently found out that my husband was registered at many sites designed specifically to meet people for cyber relationships. Many of them required nude pictures for registration. I found by checking an email account that I was suspicious of (only because he kept the password different from the rest of his accounts) that he had been communicating with several different women, telling them about his fantasies, telling them how beautiful they were, what he like about their bodies specifically... very graphic conversation for a man I'd never even heard say those types of things to me! And I'd found pictures of himself that he had taken and sent to several women. He received several responses telling him what they wanted to do with him and what their IM names were and when they would be available for web cam chats. Some asked him if he was married. He sometimes said yes, sometimes no. But in all of his pictures, he had removed his wedding band. He assured me that he never meant to lead anyone on or let anyone believe he was single. Even tho he had said he wasn't married. I was told that the women i found out about were the only ones. But I still check that account on occasion and find new email notifications from sites that he registered on that tell him that he's received a new message from someone looking to meet up with him. He promised me that he'd never meet someone offline. But I found in his preferences on these sites it said that he would be interested in an offline affair. The worst part... He could never tell me why he wanted to have this online fantasy. I am an attractive woman and have been told so by many men, even after having two children. I am still young (only 22) so I think that I should still be considered young and beautiful by my husband. but the women he was chatting with were perfect. So my only explanation would be that my body had changed and he didn't like it anymore... I didn't think of myself as attractive at all... I asked him how he would feel if he found out that had been going on with me and other men. would it make him feel like he wasn't good enough for me anymore? that i wanted something more attractive, more manly... He said it wouldn't bother him... So, yes. Cybersex is cheating. Any kind of relationship that someone has that involves sharing intimate feelings or desires with someone who is not their partner can leave feelings of hurt, resentment, and insecurity. I don't know if I will ever get over the fact that my husband went to another woman, even if just the image and the fantasies shared with her, for satisfaction... Something he hadn't even thought would hurt me... So think about it before you try it. Make sure you know your partner's views on it before you even start to toy with the idea... [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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Subject Author Date Re: Cyber Sex – Is it Cheating? (NT) gme 11:16:11 05/24/07 Thu