Date Posted:20:43:34 04/04/07 Wed Author:LaShundra D. Richmond Subject: Re: Authoritative parenting In reply to:
April Dandridge
's message, "Authoritative parenting" on 16:58:41 04/04/07 Wed
>After reading chapter nine as well as looking over my article, I have gained some real insight as to the many difficulties parents must face and the idea that how you raise your child will determine the young adult he or she becomes. Its almost mind-boggling to think that what happens now could have a life-changing affect on a child later in life. Being a single mother, I must watch for the negative factors that may hinder my ability of raising my child and helping her to develop without damaging them. It is our duty as parents, whether single or not, divorce or married, to seek out the best possible ways in disciplining and raising our children. It does matter how we handle situations even if we cant' see it making a difference or much of a difference right now.
I did not whip my daughters until they were 8 and 9 years old. I generally talked to them about things, but on this particulare day, they were forming a rebellion against me the mother. Almost caused me to have an accident in the car. I did wait until I got home and had each take off their clothes and I whipped them both. They never tried that again with me or anyone else. At 27 and 26 they have fond memories of the day that they tried to assert their independence to get what they wanted. After that they knew that I was capable of going there, so they made a choice not to suffer the consequences of making bad choices. I always preach choices and consequences. If you ever say you must follow-through or they children will not ever belive you. I think it is very improtant not to promise a whipping, if you are not going to follow through with it.
