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Subject: Re: fiancee in denial

Author:
Heather

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Date Posted: 14:51:21 08/29/12 Wed
In reply to: megan 's message, "fiancee in denial" on 09:20:00 08/21/12 Tue

I am so sorry that you are going through this. Honestly, I have heard all the excuses as I was married to a meth addict for many years. There are those cases where they can and do get off of drugs for good, however, they will never be the same and there are so many underlying problems they deal with. Life is hard for an addict, a fact that is not to take lightly. They make is difficult on themselves. My ex husband is not a father to our son and comes and goes in his life. I have now put a stop to it as my son is 11 now and says he deserves better. I agree. So what you see now with your husband is all lies. I can tell by the way he said he has a pipe around just so he can say I won't use. OMG... you know how many times I have heard that? SO many..
And if you throw everything away, he will have new stuff tomorrow so dont waste your time and energy, whether is be physically or emotionally on going through his things. You will just end up hurting yourself more and you do not need that. It makes it harder to get over it and through it. The best thing to do is accept that he is a user, offer him help, and if he chooses to not get the help and change, WALK AWAY... that is the best you can do for all involved, otherwise your life and emotions will be a rollercoaster for as long as you allow it.
So all this to say, if you found any paraphenelia, he is using and you need to run. Its not your fault or your problem. Read the helpful tips and i will check back to see if you respond.

Hugs to you. Take care of yourself and the kids.

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