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Subject: Re: WHEN DO THEY START TO TELL THE TRUTH

Author:
Shari

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Date Posted: 12:34:40 06/21/06 Wed
In reply to: Debbie S 's message, "WHEN DO THEY START TO TELL THE TRUTH" on 18:40:21 06/20/06 Tue

I didn't say anything when you posted about your son being in jail before because I didn't want to burst your bubble on whether or not he is on his way to being clean.

It is amazing how they find just the right thing to say to us...but that is called "talking the talk" and is nowhere near "walking the walk."

They stop lying when they are truly ready to come clean, and even then the lies can continue a little bit. It is the lying that seems to be the last thing to go...and when it does, he will truly be on his way toward recovery.

I'm not sure how to explain it, but there is a change in the voice, and definitely a change in attitude. A humbleness comes over them.

I was lied to and manipulated from my addict within the prison walls for a 9-month term, his one month bust that got him into the term he is in now, and at least 9 months through this term. Only he and God knows if I'm still being lied to and manipulated, but if that is the case, it is the last time!

You have to do what is right for you, and I can't imagine what you are going through as my addict is not my child. Do know, that he will take you on his rollercoaster without any regrets, and you leaving him to suffer his own consequenses does not in any way mean you are not loving him. Detaching from him while he is in jail might be the best thing you can actually ever do for him. Easy to say...very difficult to do.

You have to take care of you and your family that is not addicts, or you'll be surprised at how the addict will bring you all down. Only the addict and God can lift them out of the addiction. There is nothing that you can say or do that will ever point him in that direction.

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: WHEN DO THEY START TO TELL THE TRUTH	Jackie	16:30:24 06/21/06 Wed

Re: WHEN DO THEY START TO TELL THE TRUTH	Debbie S	18:20:33 06/21/06 Wed