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Subject: Re: Need some input

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Heather

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Date Posted: 10:51:22 04/17/06 Mon
In reply to: Been There 's message, "Re: Need some input" on 10:35:21 04/17/06 Mon

OK that's true, I need someone who has dealt with addiction. I will find someone with that qualification.

And - the old Spencer - he's gone. And I don't think he will come back at all until he gets off drugs for good. I'm just so confused now though about my son and him. I want them to have a relationship but at the same time I wish he would leave us all alone and let us live a peaceful life without all that drama that follows him.
I am sssssssssoooooo tired of dealing with all of this and still need to get rid of any guilt that I feel.

Can they be clean and still be like they were when they were using? This is my opinion - I think he is using a couple times a week and living the FREE high life at Bernie's house. I finally told Bernie that he is enabling him. AFter 2 months of no contact, he begged to come to my older son's b-day party, so I let him and there he went with his old ways of trying to get me back. And as much as I wanted things to be real - I knew better, but gave it a try and it only took 2 weeks for me to see that he was not serious. He stayed at my house on the weekends and I looked through his phone and noticed that the week before he had called that girl he was being with and still had his dealers number in his phone. He had changed his phone number so that I would give him a chance but that doesn't work unless they are really serious for THEMSELVES. I made him leave right away when I found that stuff and he was so blaming and very mean. Never once apologetic. Does that sound to you like he is still using? There are many other things that happened in such a short period of time that I was like "Oh he has to be kidding, he is not folling me. But I still had let him back in to my life and my kids' life. So please remind me again what is my best course of action with an addict. I know these things, but when we let them back in, we need reminders. I seen an attorney a week ago and he has drawn up divorce papers, Now i must file them at the court house. What about my son? What about him and his dad.

Help me with some advice, suggestions, anything cause he made me feel guilty with his manipulation again.

Thanks,
HEather

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: Need some input	Heather	11:33:12 04/17/06 Mon
Re: Need some input -- Hulalea, 12:30:54 04/17/06 Mon Re: Need some input -- Heather, 12:54:34 04/17/06 Mon Re: Need some input -- TR, 13:41:07 04/17/06 Mon Re: Need some input -- Heather, 14:06:28 04/17/06 Mon