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Subject: for Heather

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Hulalea

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Date Posted: 17:25:26 04/21/06 Fri
In reply to: Heather 's message, "Sorjam" on 16:51:44 04/21/06 Fri

Heather,
What I meant is that you are helping Spencer by "slamming" him with reality. He will see that you no longer believe anything he says or does, etc. by involving the courts, law enforcement, whatever. This is bringing his bottom to him, basically, but more than that, it's separating you from this contagious disease. I have seen you get more swallowed up by his lies because of the love and good wishes you have for him - and I've done the exact same thing! He and my ex have a way of making you feel like it's kinda your fault and you should feel responsible but because he loves you, you should feel guilty for slamming him. Again, you heard it but you're not doing anything wrong. I had to understand why I cried so much seeing the cops cuff my husband because he violated his restraining order. I cried for hours till I was so sick to my stomach and dehydrated. I was literally very, very sick. Then, the next week, he was back here again trying to manipulate us and acting sweet and loving until I threatened to call the cops again if he wouldn't leave. He immediately went into a rage. The cycles are crazy and continuous. We're trying so hard to help or change them, or make them realize and all it is is like US trying to take some medication but expecting THEM to get better. Do what you know is the better thing and don't let that thing between your ears rule your heart, let God guide you (a very close friend once told me that).
Praying for you, girl.
Hulalea

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Replies:

Subject	Author	Date
Re: for Heather	Heather	23:10:38 04/22/06 Sat

Re: for Heather	Kelly2	22:26:54 04/23/06 Sun
Re: for Heather -- Hulalea, 14:46:26 04/24/06 Mon Re: for Heather -- Kelly2, 19:16:10 04/24/06 Mon