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Subject: Re: Help

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Date Posted: 12:37:02 04/24/06 Mon
In reply to: Help 's message, "Help" on 11:05:36 04/24/06 Mon

It is just a way for the addict to defend their precious drug and to rationalize their use. The addict needs to stop blaming others. It is their life the need to control it. Info for you below. Good Luck.

Blame and Denial
Blaming others for any set of consequences usually constitutes Denial.
Denial keeps all addicts in their addictions.
Defense Mechanisms
1. Rationalizing - I don't drink/use every day, I don't have a problem.
2. Minimizing - I don't drink/use half of what Sam drinks.
3. Cockiness - I got it made, these other folks are losers.
4. Justifying - If you had a wife/husband like mine, you would drink/use too.
5. Projecting - You always manipulate to get what you want.
6. Blaming - You drove me to drink/use. It is my job stress.
7. Humor - This isn't serious. Life is a joke.
8. Intellectualizing - Research shows I'm probably not an alcoholic/addict.
9. Lying - I only had a couple of beers, maybe three.
10. Manipulation - If you quit bitching, I'll quit drinking/using.
11. Accusing - You�re fooling around keeps me drinking/using.
12. Threatening - Get off my back or you will be sorry!
13. Judging - If you did this or that right, things wouldn't be so bad.
14. Explaining - Oh, I drink/use because I . . .
15. Analyzing - I started drinking more because of ____, it will slow down later.
16. Arguing - I'm not an alcoholic, I've never gotten a DUI or . . .
17. Defiance - I dare you to prove that I'm an alcoholic/addict.
18. Withdrawing - If I don't do or say anything, they will leave me alone.
19. Shouting - Leave me alone, I don't want to talk about it!
20. Silence -
21. Smiling - Just laugh it off. Nervous smile.
22. Compliance - I just do and say what they want.

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Re: Help	Heather	14:13:51 04/24/06 Mon