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Subject: Re: my son's gone awol

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Shari

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Date Posted: 07:09:44 03/09/06 Thu
In reply to: nancy 's message, "my son's gone awol" on 00:21:29 03/09/06 Thu

Nancy, Your son is going to do what he is going to do all by himself. Nothing you have done will send him to using. He might use it as an excuse, but that is all it is. Addicts don't take responsibility for any of their actions; it is always someone elses fault.

As for you...your spirit is so broken! I know how you feel. You need to get yourself healed. I'm working on it too; for both my toddler and myself. You have to detach from him and work on yourself. I am doing it by pulling away from my addict spouse, burying myself into The Bible in a Year, and praying constantly for relief.

I used to take the things my addict spouse did personally till I found that all the things he did were things most every addict did. That helped a lot. I don't take it personally any more. What really helped me a lot was to forgive him for everything he's done. By forgiving him, it took away the anger, frustration, and turmoil that was going through me because of his actions. Forgiving him doesn't mean allowing him to continue to do it. It just gave me a sense of peace to be able to move on so that I can pick up our broken spirits.

You need to stop being a victom from your son and your job. I know...easier said than done. Good luck and God bless!

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