Re: 愛有多深度 -- funion 討論區

[ Show ]

Support VoyForums

[ Shrink ]

VoyForums Announcement: Programming and providing support for this service has been a labor of love since 1997. We are one of the few services online who values our users' privacy, and have never sold your information. We have even fought hard to defend your privacy in legal cases; however, we've done it with almost no financial support -- paying out of pocket to continue providing the service. Due to the issues imposed on us by advertisers, we also stopped hosting most ads on the forums many years ago. We hope you appreciate our efforts.

Show your support by donating any amount. (Note: We are still technically a for-profit company, so your contribution is not tax-deductible.) PayPal Acct: Feedback:

Donate to VoyForums (PayPal):

[ Login ] [ Main index ] [ Post a new message ] [ Search | Check update time | Archives: 1, 2, [3], 4 ]

Subject: Re: 愛有多深度

Author:
Tiger

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Date Posted: 23:41:17 11/03/04 Wed
In reply to: ji 's message, "愛有多深度" on 21:28:53 10/31/04 Sun

Wa! Your problem is so complicated!

Well, one by one, step by step. Let's deal with your friend's problem first. "她只喜歡舊男友打" Try to break down this surface picture into deeper and clearer questions.

How many boy friends she has had? Did she get beaten everytime? Any guys treat her well but still broke up? She likes being beaten or just tolerate it? What's her boyfriend's reaction before, during and after the beatings? And how about her reaction? ...... Try your best throught questions to find out the truth behind the scene, just like detectives. Real reasons may be really stupid things that happened at the wrong place, wrong time and wrong person. Just try to dig out the real problem and solve it.

I think you'd better solve your friend's problem before getting into your problem. By giving your best to help without thinking anything about yourself may make her feel comfortable to be real good friend with you. Being unselfish (I mean really unselfish, not pretending. if you pretend, she can feel it and will be unhappy) will get you the best result.

Good luck mate!

>我去年知道自己喜歡一個女子,她是中學同學.我這麼多年沒有?>扆O她,多年前幫她解決問題,祝福她便離開.
>
>直接去年再聯絡了,我太緊張幫她解決問題,與她的生活起了很?>茖R撞(示愛意及一起面對困難,但她不想面對自己的問題).
>
>最後,我讓她走,我很心痛.但她開心及成長才是最重要,
>
>我一直很心痛.她只喜歡舊男友打.
>
>我想知自己是否太傻,不去爭取.
>
>希望你們多給我意見.

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]