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Gary
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Date Posted: 22:16:20 07/20/04 Tue
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In reply to:
Varsha Bhatia (10/03/1984)
's message, "Distrubed" on 12:15:58 07/20/04 Tue
Dearest Varsha,
First, let me just say that life IS hard. It doesn't seem to matter what age you are, or any of your circumstances. We are here on planet Earth to learn, and difficulties are the key tool used to get us to see and do things differently.
Having said that, the answer you wish is "What should I do?"
Let's start at a very basic level. Nothing is pre-determined. You can become a great friend of people, and also have a lot of true friends. You have a whole life time to do that, if that is your intention and it takes that long to do it. Do not let others tell you what you can not be. You can be it if that is a purpose for your life.
As for your boyfriend, I would suggest you read many of the messages here. Relationships are the most frequent area of difficulties for people, and especially women. Please realize that you can not get anybody to do what you might wish. You can only be who you are, and then see if it makes sense for the two of you to be together given who they are. And the period of time that you are together is variable. Some people will be together for a long time, others for a shorter period.
As for your mother, please realize that she, like you, is trying to do the best that she understands. That is all anybody does. It may not be as we would wish it, or like it, but it simply is. All we can do is work with it.
Finally, remember that all these difficulties point out things in us that are not right within us. Behavior is always less about somebody else, and much more about us.
Having said that, it is very, VERY hard to determine what that condition is in us that is holding us back (and triggering our being upset with others). Again, time will slowly reveal these things to you.
The above may not seem very helpful, but you have to realize that the life you have is exactly the life you wanted BEFORE you actually came here. It is tougher to do than to envision. But we have all the heavens cheering us on, and providing us guidance to the best of our ability to receive it.
You are very loved by God and those in heaven. To the best of your ability, you need to feel that connection and the safety it can bring you.
If my life can be a guide (and I don't know whether it can be), it seems that we are to live in the present. Only ask what I should do now, this minute. Do not build plans for the future, but instead act from the moment. Our disappointment with boyfriends and others comes from our expectations for them. How they act is God's business. How we act is our business. We can only work on our business, and that is a full-time job for most of us.
Always go back to the basic point that you are loved by God now, today, and will be forever. From feeling that love for yourself, then simply try to pass that love on to your boyfriend, your mother, and others WITHOUT expectations of anything in return. It is not easy, so be gentle with yourself as you do it. You are only trying to do it a bit better each day. That is all that is asked of you in the Earth School.
Blessings upon you, for your courage in the face of life, and the improvements you are attempting for the benefit of all of us here on Earth. God is extremely proud of you, and the courage you have shown to come here and live in such a tough place.
Love,
Gary
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