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Re: how can you say that?

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Eugene

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Date Posted: 11:45:24 04/03/03 Thu
In reply to: sWoOsH 's message, "Re: how can you say that?" on 20:46:57 04/01/03 Tue

I have been wanting to see that film -- I even borrowed it from a friend when I was at his house, but forgot to bring it home with me. By the way, do you know that the Chinese translation of the title actually means "My Barbaric Girlfriend"?

So the girl is trying to "salvage" her ex-boyfriend by finding someone just like the ex and "fix" him this time? Ha ha ha! That is a sad, but funny motivation. When we were studying family dynamics in counseling classes, we actually realize that a lot of people finds partners or spouses that are similar to their parents of the opposite sex. One of the reason is that when there is something missing, or even hurtful in that parent, we often want to find somebody like that person but hoping that "This time things will be different. This time I can change him/her."

However, when the distant, or abusive parent is of the same sex, things may be different. In this case, people tend to marry people just like the opposite-sex parent not so that they can "fix" them, but so that they can continue getting the (often guilt-driven, over-compensating) parental attention.

I guess it is hard not to want to marry your own mom/dad. Ha ha!

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