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Date Posted: 10:01:03 07/13/08 Sun
Author: Dandesun
Subject: I would like all these labels to go away. Blairian, BlairFanFirst, T&Ber, JoBber, whatever... my label is Dande. That's it. My opinions change based on my own feelings and they aren't going to necessarily mesh with anyone else's.
In reply to: OTWB 's message, "Then, there are those of us who can't figure out why anybody would want her to have anything to do with either one of them." on 07:44:34 07/13/08 Sun

Am I a Blair fan? Yes. I am. She's definitely one of my, if not the most, favorite characters on the show.

But I am a Blair fan who very often cannot stand the decisions Blair makes and the pairings that she gets put in. I have, at times, very much wished that Blair would never know another moment of happiness because I've been so disgusted with her choices on the show. Guess what? I got over it.

I can only speak for me. Dande. I can't speak as a T&Ber or a Blair fan or a Kassie fan or a Leo or a woman or a Californian or meat-eater or a OLTL fan because those are far too broad. And, frankly, when I see anyone start a sentence with 'as a [fill in the blank] I feel this' the insinuation is that 'as a [fill in the blank] my opinion is more valid than yours.'

Well, it's not. One person's opinion is merely that. One person's opinion and while I have been guilty of being appalled at what other Blair fans have wanted for Blair at times when it comes down to it, this sort if brow-beating and casual wrist-slapping for having differing opinions wears on me. It grates.

There are T&Bers out there that I do not agree with in regards to T&B. We don't all want the same thing. We never will. I don't believe in having the couple 'at any cost' and I don't believe in NOT having the couple 'at any cost.'

Everyone's opinion speaks out loudly enough without waving your personal banner with it. I just think it reeks of cliquism and drawing lines, of saying, 'you say you're this but you feel this way so clearly you're not.'

Maybe I'm just getting too old for this shit. I've seen this fanbase splintering long before I came in to the online soap fan world. It blows, it really does because it just never works out well for anyone.

What it comes down to is this: Love what you love, argue and debate and discuss, support what you want to support but remember that everyone's opinion is valid and it doesn't make them any less a fan of something that they love just as much.

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[> [> [> [> Hi Dande, nice to meet you. ROTFLMAO.... well said. -- OTWB, 12:36:25 07/13/08 Sun


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[> [> [> [> [> Well said, Dande! ITA. No matter where our individual loyalties lie, we all can agree to disagree. -- LH, 03:44:14 07/14/08 Mon


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