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Subject: Re: Processing a burn, a new me emerges

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Kyla

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Date Posted: 15:17:27 06/29/01 Fri
In reply to: Cassie 's message, "Processing a burn, a new me emerges" on 13:13:12 06/29/01 Fri

I love that: "I am both sides of the coin and there is only one coin." Yet... feeling that I could have made a different decision THEN somehow makes me feel subtly wrong for having made the decision I did, which has shown itself to be harmful. When I feel "I could not have done anything but what I did," and still can now make a different decision in concert with the Inner Survivor of that bad time when I made the original, ultimately harmful decision, that is when relief comes to me. Because I am not saying to that one, "you could have done better for us." I am saying "you did the best you could, THANK YOU FOR SURVIVING! Now we can make another decision together." And usually it's a conversation in several stages. Maybe, in fact, you're at a stage I haven't reached. How does it feel to say "I could have made a different decision?"

Your relief is my relief. And as you can see I'm mighty hungry for this kind of interaction. I presume there is infinite room on this thing, so I am not crowding anybody out by speaking up so often? (My fear.) (Do we welcome her?) Cassie, thank you for this.

love*******Kyla

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Re: Processing a burn, a new me emerges	Deidra	22:18:08 06/29/01 Fri