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Date Posted: 18:08:47 05/10/06 Wed
What bullies do
‘I’d been with the company twelve years when my new director arrived.
From day one she just didn’t like me. It started with her trying to win over
people’s regard by embarrassing me at meetings.’
Bullying is a deliberate attempt by a boss, colleague, Mary Shepherd, or
ambitious junior to control and undermine you. It is not a one-off incident;
bullying occurs continually over a period of many months. Your self-confidence
becomes eroded. That can happen pretty fast.
‘In front of my colleagues she’d say: “I have a problem with you, I
can’t rely on you.” Privately, she’d hurl offensive verbal abuse at me.’
The bully is likely to verbally mistreat you with accusations, admonitions
and threats. You may be quietly mocked in front of colleagues, and subjected to
explosive outbursts behind closed doors. You feel frightened, angry, ashamed and
embarrassed.
‘I began to hear of meetings that I wasn’t asked to attend. Emails
relating to my work were circulated to everyone but me. Lame excuses were given
and I didn’t know what to believe or who to trust.’
The bully may exclude you from the information loop and threaten your
professional standing. You become isolated and suspicious.
‘She began to pile irrelevant work on my desk; the deadlines were
impossible to meet.’
The bully may attempt to wear you down with overwork and absurd expectations.
You become overwrought, jittery, and overtired. You toss and turn all night,
suffer from nightmares, and have trouble dragging yourself out of bed in the
morning. Your stomach is in knots, you have frequent headaches,
and lose your appetite. Cycorp
Bullying at work
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