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Date Posted: 23:04:57 08/03/05 Wed
Author: Eurydice
Author Host/IP: 141.154.23.82
Subject: Re: So, did anyone ever find out who William the Poet was?
In reply to: sparkle- I know I rarely delurk, but it popped in my head 's message, "So, did anyone ever find out who William the Poet was?" on 21:42:30 08/03/05 Wed

I felt bad for Riley. He loved Buffy, but she didn't love him. And yeah, he had issues and cheated on Buffy with the vamp ho, but he was still more emotionally invested in the relationship than Buffy was.

And from Buffy's point of view, after she got over the momentary pang of "how DARE a guy leave ME?!!" I figured she was kind of relieved to get that emotionally needy guy off her back so she could concentrate on more important things, so I didn't feel bad for her.

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[> [> Even if Riley was more invested in the relationship . . . -- Marie, 23:31:13 08/03/05 Wed [1] (4.228.141.48)

that happens. Relationships do have up and downs. Six months before, Buffy seemed pretty invested. The problem is--while they might have been invested in the relationship (Okay. So tired of that phrase now, but am not able to think of a better one right now. Sorry.)I'm not sure either one was invested in who the actual person in the relationship.

I'm not sure it's fair to judge Buffy's emotional ties to Riley based on Riley's own insecurities, and Buffy's own tendencies to introvert during emotional crisis. Introverting doesn't mean you're not invested--it just means you're not always able to open up. And some of not falling into despair over his departure (Alliteration is fun.)can easily be attributed to the KeyDawn explosions that happened fairly quickly afterwards.

Further, Riley wrote the relationship off pretty quickly, too. He never told Buffy he was having any of these problems--she never had a chance to address them. Plus, for someone so emotionally invested, he and the Sambot got married very quickly. You could get backlash from his rebound time. (Of course, that doesn't stress me too much. It lends itself rather nicely to my "They weren't in love with each other. They were in love with love." theory.)


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[> [> [> Well, that wasn't really the question -- Eurydice, 00:30:07 08/04/05 Thu [1] (141.154.23.82)

The question was which one did I feel sorry for at the moment when the relationship ended - and that's not a matter of logical analysis of their entire relationship or a comparison of their individual personality traits, it's just a matter of which character tugged my heart strings at the time they broke up. All I know is that I felt as if Riley cared more for Buffy at that time than she cared for him, and that I had a greater emotional reaction to his pain than I did to hers.


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[> [> [> [> Well, darn! I like to argue. How can I argue when you're being nice? ; ) -- Marie, 06:30:36 08/04/05 Thu [1] (4.228.141.70)


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