I'm so glad you de-lurked (is that a word? It is now! *G*), and am flattered that my story had a hand in it. I am SO looking forward to reading your posts!
You're right, Adam has matured quite a bit since Katie lived with him, and I agree with you that his divorces had something to do with that. He's also been able to step back and look at things more objectively, and has realized that while he cares a great deal for Katie, he was never in love with her. The fact that he wants Jay and Katie back together says a lot about the man he's become.
I'm glad Katie's feelings came through. She grieves quite violently in private, but in front of anyone she tends to be rather matter of fact about it. I'm glad enough of what she really feels shows here.