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Date Posted: 22:15:38 05/15/03 Thu
Author: mommie2josh
Subject: It was (m)
In reply to: Bethany 's message, "I didn't get to see it - it was deleted already, may I ask what it was all about?" on 20:33:42 05/15/03 Thu

a board member posting anonymously about how her DH surprised her last night by not "preventing pregnancy", so to speak, and she was announcing that she might possibly be pregnant, she'd know in about 2 weeks. Well, one member responded by saying that her post was insensitive to those who have experienced losses recently. (We've had 1 member who had a stillbirth in February, and another who just had a m/c a couple weeks ago). She said that if the incognito poster indeed turned up pregnant, that *then* was the time to announce it, but not before. I responded to *that* poster by saying that while I feel for those who have experienced losses recently, it is unfair to take that excitement of a possible pregnancy away from someone else, just so that nobody's feelings get hurt.

It just fries me. Even those who have experienced the losses have said that they don't want people walking on eggshells so as not to hurt their feelings.

I was pretty snooty in my reply. I said, "God forbid, should something happen and Dave died, I wouldn't expect you all to stop posting about your DH's..." It's just not fair to expect everyone to constantly have to worry about hurting everyone else's feelings by being excited for themselves.

Our board is also adding a "SIBLING" folder, so that those who have a sibling for their July 99'er can post updates & stuff there. I said, that by this member's logic, the Siblings folder was insensitive to those who, for whatever reason, have not been able to give their July 99'er a sibling yet.

Everyone is so wrapped up in the whole idea of sensitivity that they aren't even realizing how hypocritical they are being. They aren't thinking about how THEIR post is hurting the feelings of the person who was excited about possibly being pregnant in the first place....and it just ticks me off. It seems really strange, and maybe it's just coincidental, but when PP converted their messageboards, everyone became all *itchy...

All the more reason to stay closer to home (by home I mean HERE!)

Tina

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