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Date Posted: 09:45:29 04/21/03 Mon
Author: Ginger
Subject: Just some random thoughts..
In reply to: Jeanne 's message, "Funeral question" on 09:29:25 04/21/03 Mon

Not sure if Ill help or not.. but these are some thoughts I had as I read this and tried to think about Trent going to a funeral.. which he hasnt done yet..we havent had anyone die,...although DHs Great Grandfather died last week and the funeral was last Friday.. but it was in Alaska and we obviously couldnt go..

Anyways.. got sidetracked there..sorry..

ok, my first thought was that I dont think Trent would be 'scared' at a funeral.. unless he went to the viewing but I dont think I would take him to that part of one..

as for the funeral itself, I think it would depend on how I thought he would behave in a church type setting.. now I know that when we go to church on Sundays, he gets restless and cant seem to sit still for long.. I already worry on Sundays about how the people around me might not be getting anything out of the meeting.. but I think I might worry more at a funeral..

so in that case I would just consider how well she does in a church type sitting still setting.

now, for the cemetary part of it..

I can only speak from past experience.. when we buried Autumn in Maine, we only had the 3 boys and they were 6,4 1/2, and 3.. I remember that they did not 'get' it much and they were again very restless standing there listening.. they wanted to be running around the place.. now, it was a very small service, and maybe thats why.. I just dont know how Trent would do at one right now..

and as for understanding.. the boys got it I thought.. but they still asked a lot of questions for a looong time.. wanting to know things like when Autumn would be coming home.. even though we had explained to them over and over that she was with Heavenly Father and not coming home.. that part just didnt sink in with them..

all that being said..I do think it would all depend on the child.. if shes not a restless type and can sit still for a service, then I might go ahead and take her.. be prepared for some questions after, although it might all be a little over her head and she may not ask any after all..

and I may be completely wrong here.. LOL but those are just my thoughts.. in regards to *my* 5 yr old and funerals.

Ginger

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