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Date Posted: 12:50:45 04/08/03 Tue
Author: Gina
Subject: Hi Jeanne....(m)
In reply to: Jeanne 's message, "I'm sad" on 12:38:26 04/08/03 Tue

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. I just wanted to share something with you that I read in a magazine awhile back. The article discussed couples who were having problems...some got divorced, some didn't. It asked the couples to rate their marriages and most of them rated the marriage as "very unhappy". (or something along those lines). Anyways, they checked back on the couples six months later (the ones that stayed together) and asked them to rate their marriage again and the majority had improved and now were "happy" or even "very happy". The point of the article (which I cannot remember verbatim) was that we all have highs and lows in our marriages. The marriages that stay together, stick by each other even during the "lows" instead of bailing out. So, I would guess that you are in a "low" and things could possibly improve if you just keep with it.
On a side note, my personal opinion would be that some marriages are not "saveable" because one person is unwilling to try or is doing things that are harmful to the marriage (i.e. cheating, abusing, addictive behavior, etc). In those cases, there is no choice but to end the marriage for the sake of all those involved. This does not sound like your case and counseling could be a big help to you if your dh is willing to go and try to work through his issues too.
I hope that things get better soon, Gina

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  • I'm sorry you're havintg a tough time (m) -- Beverlee, 13:37:09 04/08/03 Tue
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