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Date Posted: 21:18:07 10/13/03 Mon
Author: kbharbert
Subject: Re: Ed Asks- Help Me On this
In reply to: JB 's message, "Re: Ed Asks- Help Me On this" on 18:37:54 10/13/03 Mon

it is not my intent to be disrespectful, jb, and i certainly hope you do not see it as such, but i disagree quite strongly with your post.
hypocrisy is to feign being what one is not or believing what one does not.
that is not ed davis.
from what i've seen, ed is an upfront person.
even when he's wrong, he's right up there at the head of the parade waving a flag.
that is not hypocrisy.
nor is it hypocrisy when an honest apology is given because a person knows they were mistaken.
it matters not a wit whether one LIKES the person or not; nor how bitter the apology might taste to the giver.
at some point in your life, before you became a breeder (and maybe while you were/are a breeder) you must have had employment in some field.
and, at some point, you have likely come against a supervisor or colleague that you just couldn't stand for whatever reason.
maybe even an in-law. :o)
i'm sure, even now, you run across people you must do business with and feel the same.
in those situations, there might have come a time where you discovered you had been mistaken about something they said or did. in that situation, the action showing the most integrity would have been to admit your mistake and offer an apology.
this wouldn't have changed your feelings for the person of course.
it would have simply shown that you were willing to admit a mistake when you made one.
i don't believe ed was being hypocritical when he said he didn't hate you or you were not his natural enemy because it was said in the form of: 'i mispoke out of anger/i shouldn't have used those terms' and in regard to his own desire to protect the breed from what he believes is wrong. he did not include just yourself but anyone he sees as doing the wrong thing.
in essense, it isn't the person he hates; it's the actions of the person.
right or wrong, he's upfront with a flag and he's going at it full-tilt.
that takes courage and integrity.
as for the comment he made in regard to those "unhappy buyers" of your pups not being 'crap'---the simple truth is that no one can please all of the people all of the time.
even you.
you've been in this business a very long time and there must be (just by the law of probability) those you have not satified.
what he said was a direct and honest statement.
those people (and their complaints) are not crap.
they aren't.
they have whatever reason they have to be unhappy and they have that right.
as to them not jumping on the board(s) and saying anything...i honestly cannot blame them.
in the little time *I* have been reading the boards, i have seen very few people say anything in disagreement with yourself without getting bashed in some way by someone.
i'm certainly not saying that is your fault (and you may not even be aware that it occurs) but, in an atmosphere like such, you really can't expect a true free expression of complaints now can you?
nor can you use that very lack of complaints to boost the accolades you receive publicly.
at least not if you do not wish to be believed hypocritical yourself.
while you have not one iota of reason to believe what i say, you will find over time that my word is as good as money in the bank.
what happened is what i posted in the beginning.
ed misread (or misunderstood) a term you used.
he was wrong.
i told him so and that, because he was the one in the wrong, he should apologise.
i was right.
he did it.
he was right in doing so.
at no point did personal opinions about individuals come into the matter.
you may not have intended your original response to him to be mean-spirited but it read as exactly that.
and that was why his response to you was what it was.
it may have been what you felt was deserved; making fun may have been easy and irresistible...but neither, in my opinion, was appropriate given the circumstances.
again, i mean no disrespect to yourself; nor do i believe i have been disrespectful in giving my own opinion in the manner.
i hope you believe the same.

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