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Date Posted: 09:12:10 12/24/06 Sun
Author: Jennifer B
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Ex's
In reply to: Jen 's message, "Thanx Diana" on 10:22:03 12/23/06 Sat

Hi Jen. Unfortunately men have a much harder time accepting that their children were born special. My Ex will only take one of them at a time because he can't handle them. As a result it is usually only the middle one that sees him regularly. Because we have our children 99% of the time we know how to get over the hurtles that come with our children's specialness. Ex's are not always equipped for that. I want to be a fly on the wall on Boxing Day when his whole family go to dinner in a restaurant for their xmas dinner. It doesn't bother me when they act up (understatement!) in a restaurant but it will put him over the edge. He is not equipped to keep them together.
Don't be too hard on the ex for your own sanity. Ask him to let you know ahead of time if he is not taking the little one so you can have him occupied so he doesn't notice his sis leaving. Remember that the ex is doing this because he doesn't feel equipped and he is being a bit self centered not because he wants to get back at you or that he doesn't love his little man. The less Christian sees you get upset by it the better. If you handle it matter of factly then so will he. Look at it as some one on one time to spend with him. Anyways this is long. I am glad he took him for Christmas. I am wondering how many hours the ex lasts on Boxing Day before he brings one or all of them home. It may not be the day of peace I was planning on LOL. Hang in there and call me at the store if you need to talk.

Jennifer B

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