Create a New Forum Admin Login Member Login Contribute to Voyager Search VoyForums Help Desk VoyForums Exchange VoyForums Directory/Categories VoyForums Homepage VoyForums News FAQ - Frequently Asked Questions

[ Show ]

Support VoyForums

[ Shrink ]

VoyForums Announcement: Programming and providing support for this service has been a labor of love since 1997. We are one of the few services online who values our users' privacy, and have never sold your information. We have even fought hard to defend your privacy in legal cases; however, we've done it with almost no financial support -- paying out of pocket to continue providing the service. Due to the issues imposed on us by advertisers, we also stopped hosting most ads on the forums many years ago. We hope you appreciate our efforts.

Show your support by donating any amount. (Note: We are still technically a for-profit company, so your contribution is not tax-deductible.) PayPal Acct: Feedback:

Donate to VoyForums (PayPal):

[ Login ] [ Contact Forum Admin ] [ Main index ] [ Post a new message ] [ Search | Check update time | Archives: 1, [2], 3 ]

Subject: Wedding Planners Author: Chocolate [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 03:43:20 11/05/09 Thu Wedding Planning & Children – Do the kids get an invite or not? More and more clients are saying ‘no’ to children at their wedding. This is a difficult situation to be in as a Wedding Planner. I happen to love children at events as they add a fun and carefree dynamic to the day, but brides and grooms to be can have different and legitimate reasons for not wanting kids at their weddings. For some, it can be numbers and the size of the venue. For others, it’s the cost - paying for meals that most probably won’t be eaten and the cost per head with some venues counting a child as a person (and offering no discount), and for some it can be their behaviour! Children are known to cry through your vows or start running around and skidding across the floor just as your sophisticated champagne reception gets going. This is not necessarily ‘bad’ behaviour - it is just kids! Yet you may not be in the mood for this type of behaviour at your wedding. Take stock, we say to our clients it’s OK, it’s your wedding, plan for it the way you feel best fits into your wedding vision – it is your day. Guests are invited and must appreciate your decision on all other aspects of your wedding - the ceremony, the venue, the catering, they should also appreciate your decision on inviting children. If people feel that they are unable to go places where their children are not invited, then those people are free to decline the invitation. So how do you do it, well wedding invite etiquette insists that every guest must be invited by their name, even tiny infants. Therefore, if a name isn't on the invite, they haven't got an invite end of story. If you are worried this is not clear enough and that guests may take their children along, you must be more to the point. Be nice, yet firm and to the point. A separate note inside the invitation can be a good idea of doing this, saying something along the lines of ‘We love your children, but our wedding is an adult only event. Thank you for understanding!’ [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]