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Date Posted: 08:09:24 12/19/05 Mon
Author: Jai Mohler
Subject: could you please help us?

"I’ve never done anything like this before"... This is the first thought that comes into my mind as I start this story. First "we" are Jai and Tammy, a couple who have been together for 13 years. When we met, Tammy had one daughter, Amanda, and we had a daughter together. Tammy is in restaurant management and I am a CNA specializing in elder care. I am not asking anyone for money, please read on.
Let me back up to a year ago when we were evicted from our home. We had been through three hurricanes in two months. The house had been damage by all three, the place I worked had lost its roof and so I had lost my job, Tammy Restaurant was closed for two weeks and we were broke. Black mold had started climbing the walls on the house and the landlord refused the half payment on the rent and we ended up in a hotel room, two adults, three kids four dogs, two cats and a pair of turtles. It would almost be funny if it wasn’t so miserable. We worked hard, have the kids to their fathers for a short time and after six months of waiting for FEMA to help (never happened) we found a small home that we could afford. The next kick in the pants came when we emptied storage building where all our things had been and found it had leaked and everything was molded. We lost all our clothes, shoes, computers, tv's every thing. When I stopped crying, I found a job caring for an elderly gentleman with Parkinson and little by little we started to catch up on the bills. I spent every penny I made on back payments and trying to replace all the things we lost in the storms. In May, just as we moving, our 20-year-old, Amanda, told us she was pregnant. She already had a 5-year-old and her first pregnancy had been very difficult. She has a rare blood type and has to receive shot to keep from losing the child. We were happy to be grandparents again and our relationship with Amanda was so much better then it had been in the past so we all began to look ahead with hope. Then Amanda started getting big, really big. The water around the baby was massive and the doctors found a problem. The baby wasn't processing the fluid. He had a bowl blockage. The baby would need surgery. Amanda stayed in bed for the last two months and we all prayed. Then the unplanned, unexpected, unthinkable happened. The gentleman I cared for died, I was without work, and just a few days later Amanda went into premature labor. On Wednesday, October 12th we had a beautiful baby boy who couldn’t breathe on his own. He had problems eating, and having BM’s and couldn’t come home. The doctors ran so many tests, poking and prodding and changing their opinions over and over. After 29 days they said he was good to go home and released him, four hours later he had to be air lifted back to the hospital, I preformed CPR for 7 minutes while the other children stood by crying. They set the helicopter down right in front of the house, and we followed, running every toll.
He was to be operated on Friday Nov. 18, but he had a bad reaction to being put under. They will wait until after the holidays but he will have a G-tube in his abdomen to eat and it will be there for six months to a year. So all during this time I’ve been at home with Amanda’s now 6-year-old son and our 11 year old daughter. I can’t work, I have to get them on and off the bus, help with homework and do all the cooking, Amanda uses to do this for us, and no one else to take care of him and we have fallen behind on every thing. The kitchen is bare and the bank accounts are empty as is my gas tank. I’m willing to work but Tammy spends all day at work and nights at the hospital with Amanda and the baby. And when the baby does come home I will be his main care giver, I’ve worked with high risk feeders, tube feeders and disabled children so I’m going to be responsible so his mom can work. Yesterday I stood in the Pulex parking lot and considered asking people for money. I couldn’t and so we all went to bed hungrily and the kids had no breakfast or lunches for school. But today I can’t do it, I can’t let the kids go without, without food, or Christmas. So I come to you asking for help, help to feed our children and make them smile during the holidays.
Please find it in your hearts to help us.
UPDATE: On Friday Nov. 25 at 8a.m. Justus was operated on to repair his herniated stomach and place a PegTube. Over the next 6 hours he stopped breathing 3 times .He is on O2 and in a warmer. The doctors are hopeful. I want to thank all the ladies who made a happy and bountiful Thanksgiving possible for our family.
UPDATE: On Nov. 30 Justus came home. He is doing well all things considered. He needs diapers. Sternal water and the other children need food. Amanda will be able to go to work in January and we will be just another one of the struggling millions.
UPDATE: Dec. 3 I want to Thank You for reading this, I break down with ever email, every note, every time someone prays for my little family. I held Justus for 3 hours last night, just crying. He is so small, with tubes and bandages and still smiles and coos. God blessed us. So Thank You for all you've done or will do to help me hold together my family.
UPDATE: Dec.12 Justus has been home for 2 weeks. He is up to 9 lb.8 oz and is 3 months old now. I am still at home with all the children. Amanda is looking for work. I've tried every agency, charity and government office to find help getting thought this ruff patch. I've gotten very little help. No money, old food and a speech from a Nun about how everyone lives outside their means. I've been turned down because I'm not related to Tammy or her children, because I have no children of my own and because theirs no help left due to the hurricanes. I pray for a miracle but until one comes I’m letting the furniture go back, the computer is next to go, followed by the car, I have to keep the phone on and a roof over our heads so the repo man will be heading my way. It’s OK, I’ve worked my way out of a hole before and I will again. I’m thankful for all you have done, all the prays and well wishes. I just want you to know if you don’t hear from me for a while it’s because the computer had to go. Thank You again.
There are angles in this world and they walk among us.
Jatae age 11, Joisha age 6 and Justus 7 weeks’ Send gifts to:
Jai Mohler
19413 Oberly Pkwy.
Orlando, Fl 32833
or write to Jai5012002@yahoo.com
(This is just west of Christmas)

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