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Date Posted: 11:07:03 08/30/07 Thu In reply to: kelli 's message, "helpmate not mother" on 08:40:51 08/27/07 Mon Hi Kelli, Blessings in Jesus' name! Thank you for your question. Perhaps you are not alone in thinking the way you do but the question is: would you rather your husband do things without you? (Read 1 Cor. 11:9, Proverbs 31) You were given to him, by God, to help him: to give support, encouragement, godly wisdom, attention and to help him see things up ahead that he might not be able to see, at times. We, as Christian wives, are supposed to give support to our husbands, who are to lead. The husband must be the head. Anything else is not a part of God's design. They are to lead and we must support them. We are not to replace God in their lives but we are to pray to God, with them and for them. The word helpmate in Genesis means, "equal to and appropriate for him." But because Eve was deceived, she became under her husband. (1 Tim. 2:14) The word, "homemaker" means to manage the home. The role of help-mate consists of help running the household-- so that all things run smoothly. It has been said that men think of things one thing at a time and women have been gifted with the capacity to have 20 things on their mind. Most men we know would agree with this. The woman was made for the man, to help him. She is to be keeper of the home, to care for her husband and children, to help manage the affairs of the family. It is a very LARGE role and only with the help of the Lord can it be done correctly. This is where prayer comes in. We cover this in our "Living The Godly wifestyle" series. The husband should be the head of the home- with responsibilities, which include bringing home the paycheck and other things, perhaps, read the kids a bedtime bible story, taking out the trash, help with the dishes, walk the dogs, helping you where you need help, etc.. Christ is to be head over the man. A good Christian husband puts his wife's needs above his own and a good Christian wife is to do the same. The wife is to be encouraging and supportive of her husband and the husband is to consider the needs of the wife and be attentive to her. Communication is the key: praying and finding out what each spouse's needs are and then helping to meet those needs. A good marriage has boundaries that need to be in place. Marriage is not just 50/50 but rather giving 100/100. Both husband and wife must give their all and what they have a hard time doing, they must get together in prayer and give their problems over to the Lord. Committment is not just a one-time promise only but also a daily execution of that promise. In other words, what you both have promised should be a daily walk in Christ Jesus. You are in covenant together. The Bible tells us wives to obey our husbands BUT it also tells the husbands to love their wives, as Christ loves the Church...this is an awesome responsibility. And the bible also tells us that Christ is the head of the husband and the Word of God admonishes us all to SUBMIT TO GOD. There is a lot involved. We thank the Lord that, as born again believers, we have the Holy Spirit who is our Comforter and Helper. We, as Christian wives, need to ask the Lord for help so that we may be the best help-mates for our husbands. As we all continue to yield to the Lord's guidance, we will see a good outcome. I could write more but we cover a lot of this on the Women's Corner. Whatever you may be going through, please remember that the Lord brings peace where there is no peace. Look to Him for strength and wisdom and empowerment. We will be praying for you. God bless you! http://www.geocities.com/cobblestoneministries/WomensCorner.html >can anyone give me any advise on just being the >helpmate, i think my husband wants me to be the doc., >the counselor, the teacher, his mother, etc. where is >the line drawn? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |