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Date Posted: 09:04:47 06/10/07 Sun
Author: Richard
Author Host/IP: NoHost / 68.248.45.188
Subject: Thanks Mikki...
In reply to: Mikki 's message, "Re: Very bad news..." on 12:16:48 06/04/07 Mon

My son suffered a hole in his skull, one side of his face burned, two fractures of his back spinal column, and one in his neck, a three centimeter triangle tear in his neck with severe nerves and veins, fractured ribs, and more. My son so complained about going home that the hospital doctors put him through some tests to check to see if he could go home. He is home. His wife's employer gave her three weeks off with pay to tend to Tim. My son has a new attitude towards life now. I sense his war with the world, which mostly a war in his own mind, has about ended. My son related to my medical condition much. My son liked hearing from me that that I said good was going to come from this… good other than the assured favorable outcome lawsuit. We talked on the phone for about 40 minutes yesterday… my son commented, "Ten days ago, if someone said be grateful for being able to hold my thing to pee, I would have told them they were crazy. Today, I got out of bed on my own and was able to use the john myself. I was quite happy with me for being able to do so."

My son was flown by helicopter to a Las Vegas hospital: bill: $18,000. Offender's insurance company picks that up. Tim so heard me as I told him often that his only job at the moment is to get well, do what the docs say, don't worry about bills, dwell on the outcome of the lawsuit, etc… just get well.

Sometimes, wake up calls can be very painful and expensive.

I talk with my son since I wrote the above. He is just now becoming aware of the areas of his body that he cannot feel sensation. I can only imagine how he must feel even with my own horrible surgeries and medical condition giving me some true empathy. I am somewhat mixed up on hearing whether he is paralyzed. I am sure he is at least partially paralyzed. The above telling of his success in going to the john, I can picture my son the fighter dragging himself to the john on crutches or something. I can say that although, my body has never been so maimed as is now, my emotional/spirituality has never been better. I so hope my son arrives at this. Now, he sounds a bit like that but we will have to wait for him to go through the grieving process to know for sure.

RICHARD

You are one awesome person… ya know! I would do just about anything for my sons, except enable them in self-harmful behavior. It might not look like that with my youngest son here. It was just a matter of process before I cut his 'apron strings'. I am the first stable adult in his life. He now assuredly believes me when I declare something. A bit ago told him I would be stopping supporting him financially. He groan some a bit. He now has two jobs and is taking the bus to get to them and home. The State has legalize the State's self-usury profiting unconstitutional scheme that has suspended his license until he pays off the State $1,000 fee… on top of the city's $2.500 in fines and fees for his impaired driving conviction.

I have new sense of urgency to fix up my fixer upper condo to sell it and move to Cedar City, an area that is cooler and able for me to live with my medical condition. That is only medium distance from where my son lives in St. George. I think that this would be a good time in my son out there to have a stable adult in his life. Before he wanted me to move out there for him to be close to my money he thought I had. Now, when he is going to get at least a settlement he wants to take care of me. I did not spoil his fantasy by telling him I will not need his financial support. Life… is not for me to understand; it is just for me to live.

RICHARD

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