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Date Posted: 04:20:44 06/11/07 Mon
Author: Rhonda K
Author Host/IP: d207-216-214-186.bchsia.telus.net / 207.216.214.186
Subject: Lorne now sleeping in the spare room...

Dayel still insists on sleeping with us in our bed. Lorne wasn't getting a good nights sleep, since his daughter has moved out, he moved into that room.

Since then, though I know in my mind that he needs his rest and he gets a better sleep...I feel totally abandoned. I have been crying myself to sleep at night. We have tried to talk about this, but he thinks I am being totally unreasonable. I am overreacting. But to be honest, I don't even want to have sex with him anymore. And up until that first night he slept in there, I couldn't keep my hands off him. He says this does not change the way he feels about me...but it definitely has changed the way I feel about him. I think that I just have to get used to the idea...that it is just temporary, and when Dayel decides she will sleep in her own room, then Lorne will move back into my bed. I know most parenting experts and non-experts will say that having my daughter sleep in our bed at the age of 4 is not right...but Aboriginals all over the world, have the "family" bed, or sleeping area...your kids are raised to feel secure and a bond is formed that cannot be questioned. My daughter, is so confident and not shy...we have raised her to be very aware and not ashamed of her body. I know that most people teach their children that their bodies should be covered up and such...but I think it very important, especially for girls to have respect for their bodies.

Anyway, that is my argument, but that is not what this post is about...I feel very "wrong" in this relationship right now. I am crying myself to sleep every night, like I did before I met Lorne. I hate going to bed! I don't want to even touch him during the day, and kissing is out of the question. I know I should be grateful for what I have and respect the fact that he is the one that is working and needs to get a full nights sleep...but even he admits he is tossing and turning and not sleeping through the night...

I suggested a King Size Bed...I have always said that....he says when Dayel gets her own bed and decides to sleep in her own room, he will come back to my bed.

I don't know, maybe I am being silly and such a "woman", but I NEVER got into a relationship, so I could sleep alone, yes my child is there...and that is comforting...but it is not the same...I miss him, I see him every day, talk to him, but I miss him!

Heart is Broken...he dismisses it...

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