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Date Posted: 16:22:52 12/08/06 Fri
Author: Rhonda K
Author Host/IP: d207-216-214-186.bchsia.telus.net / 207.216.214.186
Subject: Sending strength and love your way
In reply to: Mikki 's message, "He's finally in jail" on 11:41:05 12/06/06 Wed

I never let go of the anger and resentment after being raped, I never let go of losing a loved one...I never let go of anything....but the pain...

Sounds strange, but during therapy...I was told that if I couldn't let go..then I had to learn to dig deep within and find a place that was not hurt or in pain...a place that made me feel safe...and learn to channel those feelings whenever I was feeling loathed and dirty...

It took a long time for me to live my life without the guilt and the fear...but it can be done. I had alot of skeletons in my closet too...with past indiscretions...as a young person in college...but I know...I am not the only one to live on the edge during that time in their lives.
But when someone hurt me...I never got over it...it is so hard to do...I still have dreams every once in awhile...and wake up nauseaus...but I have a favorite DVD...that I put on and watch...to get me out of that place...

It is so hard to fathom being put in a place to save you and keep you safe and have yourself violated by another...it is good that you are looking at options to allow healing to start...

Love and hugs
Rhonda

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