| Subject: Re: need help with something / Becky |
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lara
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Date Posted: 21:52:15 11/23/04 Tue
In reply to:
Dawn
's message, "Re: need help with something / Becky" on 20:39:54 11/23/04 Tue
I'm taking a psychology seminar (Child and Adolescent Development) at my college. I'm thinking about going into social work–child advocacy, family counciling, something along those lines–and what concerns me here is what you are refering to when you say "mind games"? What do you actually see happening within the home environment?
lara
>>>>Ok so I am not sure what to do about this. I have a
>>>>three year old niece and her parents(mostly her mom,
>>>>my sister in law) plays so many mind games with
>>>>mackenzee that she is like getting totally screwed
>>up.
>>>> She was kicked out of her nursery school at church
>>>>for biting. Somehow her parents got it threw her
>>head
>>>>not to bite other people, however now she bites
>>>>herself. Tonight her younger sister, Naliyah, and
>>>>Mackenzee were playing out piano when all of a
>sudden
>>>>Naliyah got in Mackenzees way or something. So then
>>>>Mackenzee grabben Nalyiahs hand, and bit her own
>>hand.
>>>> She just bit herself soo hard and she didn't stop
>>>>until her mom pulled her hand out of her mouth, she
>>>>prolly bit herself for like 10 seconds. She had
>huge
>>>>teeth marks in her hand. It is really bad that she
>>is
>>>>inflicting pain on herself and she is only three!!
>I
>>>>don't know what we can do to help with this, nothing
>>>>really cuz her parents don't listen to ne thing we
>>>>have to say, but if ne one out there has any ideas
>>>>about ne of this, that would be great. I feel so
>bad
>>>>for her, she is three years old and already has
>major
>>>>emotional problems.
>>>>thanks
>>>>becky
>>>
>>>I understand your concern but seriously - biting is
>>>almost a natural phenomenon with most children under
>>>the age of 5 or so. It just is and as suddenly as it
>>>starts, it usually goes away just as unexpectedly and
>>>suddenly. I really wouldn't worry too much at the
>>>moment. I sincerely think she's just one of those
>>>kids that bites for now. Some little ones start
>>>hitting for now reason and then suddenly seem to
>>>outgrow it. Again, just one of those things. Unless
>>>you see something extraordinary concerning her
>>>parents' behaviour in her raising, I wouldn't worry.
>>>
>>>Hope that puts your mind at ease just a little.
>>>You're a good relative for noticing and being
>>>concerned. ;-)
>>>
>>>Deb
>>
>>Thanks Deb,
>>I hope that is all it is, I'm not sure that it is, but
>>I will think to the positive side :o) thanks
>>becky
>
>
>Becky just to let you know..
> I started biting myself when I was two..it didnt stop
>until I was 10 or so. Self inflicting pain led into
>cutting, and burning myself I was diagnosed severly
>depressed by just after I turned two. While it may be
>a phase, it also may not. If you see her biting
>herself, gentaly take her hand away from her mouth,
>tell her how much you love her, let her know it make
>you sad to see her hurt herself. Maybe you can make a
>super special promise to each other that instead of
>biting she bite a special toy or something. Keep the
>toy around all the time. Take it with you when ever
>your together. You could call it 'mr. mad head' or
>something silly. But it will help her redirect her
>frustration.
>Hope this helps
>Dawn
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