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Date Posted: "Mon, May 23 2005, 18:38:40 EST+3
Author: Beth
Subject: Thank-you for sharing Sharon

Sharon, I understand how you feel. This mother's was also very hard for me. I lost my Mom March 12th. Don't worry about what other people are saying on how you should be over it by now. They just simply don't understand. You can not just get over the death of a loved in a matter of min. or days. I do know that there are good days and bad. Some times it seems like there are more bad then good. Just take the time you need. I have learned (not easily) on who I can talk to and who I can't. Some people just don't know what to say. and some times I don't know how to express what I feel. There is so much and I still have visions and play back, that just doesn't seem to go away. I know what you meant by not wanting to go and spend mothers day with your mother in-law. I felt the same way. I just couldn't bring my self to visiting with my MIL. At first I told my husband that I would go, for him at least. But in the end. It turned out that I just couldn't go. We had it planned out, We would visit with his mom then go to the cemetary together. My husband said he understood, But somehow I knew he was hurt. I wanted to go alone to the cemetary alone. I just needed to. You see, my mil was diagnosed with alzheimer's last Aug. and is rapidly declining. until this point she was even told of my mom's passing. Some days she remembers and some days she doesn't. On April 5th she had a fall and was taken to hospital. She had asked for the fist time, in months how my mom was? At the time I just said. " oh she is fine". After words I said to my husband why I said that. But afterall, My mil had not yet known that my mom had passed away. She would have not remembered anyway. I think that I just blurtted it out that way, because that was not the time or place to say anything to her yet. He told me not to worry. She probably doesn't even remember asking about her. That is the way things go with her. Her short term memory is "short". Anyway, Sharon, don't feel quilty for how you feel. and please feel free... anytime to post your feelings.
I didn't think anyone had found this page, so I had almost given up checking it. I am so sorry it has taken me so long to reply.. Take care and be kind to your self. You deserve it.
God Bless.

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