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Date Posted: 15:01:33 11/05/06 Sun
Author: Alex Marinica (WSU)
Subject: Are Your Ready for Sex?

Are You Ready for Sex?
As I started to read the articles posted on the website I started to notice that many of them were written by very young teenagers in regard to being sexually active. The reason I was shocked was because many of these letters were written by 14 and 15 year olds. When I was that age, sex was not the only thing on my mind, or at least I was not ready to put myself in a position where I had to worry about having sex or being pressured into sex. Over the years I have had different girlfriends, and now as I am growing older the “sex question” seems to be transforming into the most important topic of my life. Luckily, I have been very fortunate to be with people that understand me feelings and were willing to talk to me about my feelings as well as their own.
I have spent a lot of time discussing this issue with many of my friends and I have come to what I think is a very rational conclusion. The act of having sex is the most intimate action any two people can take part in because in essence you are giving the other person part of you. By this I do not mean your are physically cutting of a little piece of your body and giving it to them but rather you are giving them part of you heart. This sounds cheesy but the reality is that for many, after that first time they can never feel the same or act the same. It completely changes the person you are and the life you live. I have friends and have talked to many people who had sex at a young age and almost every single one of them regrets it. They all wish they would have waited. Not necessarily for love, but waited until they were old enough to rationally and logically think about the monumental decision they were making. So are you ready to have sex? My friend said something to me that I believe will help many others see how we should look at this question. He said to me, “Look at it this way, on your wedding day you will be giving your life to another person. On that night do you to want to be sitting there beside her and think to yourself I have everything to give, my love, my trust, my life, but the one thing I cannot give is the most intimate moment we could have ever shared because I gave it to someone who I don’t even care for anymore. Look at it another way, do you want to be sitting there and thinking to yourself, my wife, the person I love and want to be with until the day I die has had this moment, this intimate moment with another person. That’s not fair for you or for her.” The bottom line is this, sex is not casual. Whether you want to acknowledge it sex will change you and effect you. Many people think they have to have sex to show they care for someone. Try not having sex, because if the only way to show you care is by having sex, then you really don’t care for that person. A relationship is more than just sex, remember that.

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