|Subject: Being humbled vs. humiliated|
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Date Posted: 10:27:59 03/01/11 Tue
I'm sure it means different things to different people but the way I'm used to it, being humbled means you were too full of yourself and deserved it, but being humiliated is being put to shame whether you deserved it or not.
Getting a spanking when you deserve it is definitely humbling and if you don't is definitely humiliating.
People have posted about baring and the positions as causing shame and they definitely do.
Another thing that causes a lot of shame that's part of the way I got it, that I still do with my daughters is "begging". That's kind of like when some families make you count out the licks like "one maam, two maam...". Part of the reason is so you can hear in the voice how they are feeling the licks. We never had to count them out at my house but I've certainly had to do that getting a whuppin from other people and I'd say it's much easier. "Begging" is having to talk while you're getting it. What you have to say for yourself makes a difference to how you get spanked so you are trying to say things to get off easier. Apologizing, saying you'll be a good girl, saying you are learning your lesson, saying "please" - though you can't say "please stop" because that's like you don't deserve it.
Crying is not an excuse to stop begging, though it's usually simpler the harder you are crying. It makes it completely impossible to act like it's not getting through to you since it's obvious from both what you say and how you are saying it that you are really feeling it.
My experience of it was that as I was getting spanked I wanted to sound sincerely sorry - like I was sincerely learning my lesson because that was the only thing that would stop the paddle licks which keep getting more and more intense and feel like I just can't take it. I wanted so much to sound sincere that I felt like i couldn't take the chance of not really being sincere. I felt like the only way to be sure that when I said "I'm gonna be a good girl" it sounded right was to really mean it with all my heart.
So when I was begging I tried hard to really mean it. It made me get my mind right. Having to beg made me focus on trying to sincerely apologize, sincerely promise to do it right from now on, sincerely say I was learning my lesson.
The few times I got spanked when I completely didn't deserve it I suppose I was humiliated not humbled but what I did then was after I'd taken my licks go back and explain what really happened. They would always listen afterwards and I was humble and sincere and not really trying to get anything but justice. I always had a sense that they made it up to me or else that I got what i deserved for some other time that I got away without being caught.
To me the opposite of a child who is humbled by a spanking is one who stays arrogant - which is not a good thing.
Just having to take your licks is usually humbling. Like having to bend over at school for the paddle. there were only a couple times that a paddling at school made me cry but it usually humbled me just to have to bend over and take it - but I never tried to push it the way some kids did trying to act like it was nothing to keep their dignity.
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