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Date Posted: 08:27:46 12/02/06 Sat
Author: Laura C (shook me up)
Subject: unexpected exchange

So hello to all shick grads. It has been over 2 months sober and it keeps getting better every day. I remember while attempting to recover solo that I heard sober former drinkers say how great life was after quitting drinking and I wanted that for myself. I was a bit suspect about there reports of such joy. I knew life would be different but the reports from the other side seemed a bit exagerated. I know now that they are not. It feels like a whole new world to me. Not that there aren't road blocks and heres 2 that happened over Thanksgiving. I was with my fiance and my extended family in Greenville. my mom is still an alcoholic and was really jonesing for a drink all through the meal as we were having lunch with my grandparents who don't approve of any alocohol in thier home. My mom was really stressing and was taking it out on me. All of my aunts uncles and cousins were soooo pround of me that they kept focusing the attention on me. They wanted to hear about the program and were just surounding me with support, praise and complements. My mom was not the center of attention and she was taking it out on me. Being snappy and rude and everyone noticed. I would normally reach for a drink to deal but that isn't an option anymore. I just took the high road and was patient and kind to her. I also realised that i knew how she felt. I saw her hand shaking and knew she needed a fix bad. It was strange but it didn't unhinge me as it would have before. 2nd thing that happened that weekend was at a football game. A friend who I have not seen since Schick was there and he and I had been great drinking pals. He had some fruity rum thing and he cam up to me and said" Here taste this you love this kind of drink " He does not know about my treatment and there were soo many people around me that it wasn't the time to explain. I shook my head and said no thanks and he kept pushing it to me. It was the kind of cocktail I would have loved in the past and he didn't understand why I would not try it. I kept saying no and backing away and he kept saying " come on, come on" and such...It freaked me out. I haven't had that kind of moment since I got back and I didn't know what to say. It did stress me out and it took a couple hours to really shake it. I know that as my life unfolds as a non drinker eventually every one around me will know that I don't drink and these kinds of things will be rare. I was a bit surprised at how much it shook me up but I know that I can't expect this major life change to happen without some hiccups along the way.

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Re: unexpected exchange -- Nanette, 10:01:36 12/10/06 Sun
- Re: unexpected exchange (NT) -- bump, 07:04:31 09/28/07 Fri