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Date Posted: 21:21:43 04/10/08 Thu
Author: iteo
Subject: Re: Good or bad news?
In reply to: Johnny Reb 's message, "Good or bad news?" on 19:50:41 04/10/08 Thu

>1. could I have a chance for happiness?
>2. could I succeed?
>3. am I lied to and will I be cheated again?
>
>Every answer to this little PM Refugees' survey will
>be welcome.
>
>I do not mean this as a joke but I trust your (even
>sarcastic) answers, my highly valued co-warriors.

i'll be the first.

Johnny, though I am very happy that you've found someone, to me the fact that you are questioning may mean one of two things.

1. Perhaps you've grown emotionally and are now beginning to examine the relationship in the early stages before it gets too far along

2. Perhaps there is something inside you that is telling you to be wary, something your intellect doesn't quite understand just yet

If it's no. 1, my suggestion would be to examine your past relationships. Have you traditionally been the type of person who falls head over heels very easily? You do say that you only met her recently and yet are already in love. If so, then maybe you put women on a pedestal too quickly. I've known many people who do that, I think it's very common.

If so, when this happens, usually those being worshipped are only too eager to have the worshipping continue until they get bored with it. In those situations the love is often one-sided. The one being worshipped may have mistaken the ego-boost they received as love, and so misled their lover unintentionally.

Once they tire of the worship, then they realize that they never really loved the other person and walk out.

If it's no.2, then perhaps your gut instinct senses something that you don't want to admit is there or don't quite see yet. And that 'thing' could be any number of things.

It could be that you're on the rebound and are seeking to be re-convinced of your own worth, a boost of ego.

It could be that this person isn't right for you on some deeper level than you recognize right now.

And finally, it could also be that everything I've written here is a boat load of crap and that this girl is the best thing to ever happen to you.

Only you can find the real answer. Good luck!!

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Re: Good or bad news? -- Johnny Reb, 18:09:53 04/11/08 Fri