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Date Posted: 20:47:09 06/21/08 Sat
Author: Michael
Subject: Re: Three friends
In reply to: Roger 's message, "Re: Three friends" on 11:38:11 06/20/08 Fri

I think that is right. It wont help to take time off, your mind will dwell on it far more. Although it is painful, to keep working and keep busy will help you to work through this and slowly adjust.

>That may or may not help. It is sometimes better to be
>busy. I remember when a good friend of mine died, I
>was able to concentrate on my work, and do anything,
>as long as I didn't have to talk about him. If I had
>taken time off, I would have just moped about feeling
>bad for the time.
>
>Time relieves grief, whether you are busy or idle. It
>is better to be busy.
>
>Love,
>Roger
>
>>During the past week, all of us in the office were in
>>shock. The atmosphere was so gloomy, we couldn't
>>believe the three of them are never going to be there
>>again.
>>
>>Some of the employees visited the families, but I
>>couldn't go. My thoughts are mostly with little Rand,
>>Sawsan's daughter. Someone mentioned that her father
>>and grandparents haven't told her that her mother died
>>yet. I am not sure. When I am not in the office, I
>>feel OK, not completely normal but I get busy with
>>life and could keep them out of my mind for a while
>>but all of a sudden I find myself breaking into tears
>>with no previous warning.. like when I wasn't thinking
>>of them and didn't feel like crying!
>>
>>But when I am in the office, it's a different story. I
>>feel my mind is blurry and couldn't concentrate on my
>>work, so I don't do much and I feel uncomfortable
>>about this situation ... I even thought of asking my
>>boss if I could get some days off, like unpaid
>>vacation.. but I don't know if I am going to do it.
>>
>>
>>>Dear Rana
>>>
>>>Please keep us updated on what is happening. I would
>>>also like to know more about them - but of course,
>>>only if it is not too painful for you
>>>
>>>Michael
>>>
>>>>I am in shock, disbelief and great pain. One of them
>>>>was a close friend. I accompanied my daughter to her
>>>>summer school early this morning and saw the death
>>>>announcement (that's what we do when somebody dies
>>>>here... we print papers and hang them in the street)
>>>>and I couldn't believe this is the announcement of
>>>>Sawsan's death... such a lively, nice, sensitive and
>>>>delicate person.. she is a poet and such a loving
>and
>>>>caring mum for her 8 years old daughter. I can't
>stop
>>>>thinking of her daughter.. Sawsan was an exceptional
>>>>mother..
>>>>The other two were just office mates, I saw them
>>>>everyday.. but I won't see them anymore... it will
>be
>>>>weird in the office without the three of them ..
>they
>>>>were very lively and noisy. Raid (he was only 29)
>>used
>>>>to call me Dr. Rana.. saying that he's sure I will
>>>>keep on untill I get a PhD and that he wanted to be
>>>>the first one to call me Dr. Rana. The other one is
>>in
>>>>his early thirties (he has two kids) ... Sawsan was
>>37
>>>>
>>>>>Rana. I am so sorry. You must be in shock and
>>>>>disbelief. Were they close friends of yours?
>>>>>
>>>>>>Oh Rana. There are no words to reply to that post.

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