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Date Posted: 23:09:45 12/28/07 Fri
Author: Paul
Subject: Re: Losing a friend
In reply to: Roger 's message, "Losing a friend" on 18:13:55 12/28/07 Fri

>>>I've been attending at the bedside of a friend of
>mine
>>>who is dying, and now in a coma. He's only 62, about
>>>four years older than I am, and loved by so many
>>>people.
>>>
>>>Strangely, it hasn't ruined this Christmas for me. It
>>>has been a very pleasant week, even the hours and
>>>hours I've spent with my friend and his family. Or
>>>maybe I'm just a cold bastard, but death is a natural
>>>progress, and this is a time for reflection and
>>>regret, not for wailing and moaning. We're all pretty
>>>relaxed about this, but it's hard to let go.
>>>
>>>Anyway, hope you all had a happy time of year, and
>>>will continue to do so.
>>>
>>>Roger
>>>
>>>
>>>>>Thanks.
>>>>>
>>>>>It is a sign of the age when I look back and
>realise
>>>>>that on Boxing Day I spent some time trying my
>>>>>sister's hearing aid and chatting about it,
>>thinking,
>>>>>hm, this is good. Oh dear!
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>Oh yes, it sounds like you were used to what things
>>>>sound like.
>>>>
>>>>I am lucky, after some decades of playing rock music
>>I
>>>>don't hear what people talk about me sneeringly. You
>>>>have to shout in my face during a noisy evening,
>>>>otherwise I don't understand anything at all.
>>>>
>>>>I don't miss the frequencies mingling between "s"
>and
>>>>"f". If I don't understand you because of the noise,
>>>>write it down.
>>>>
>>>>Hearing loss, that's what is it called.
>>>>
>>>>:)
>>
>>Sorry about your friend, but glad if people are able
>>to see his death in that way.
>
>My friend Fabian passes away at 4:15 this afternoon.
>The cause is really advanced alcoholism, which is a
>little hard to square with the fact that he did a
>great deal of good, whenever he could, for whoever he
>could. He sought to make people happy, and was often
>successful, and loved by many, many people.
>
>We are sad, but not inconsolable, as Fabian was
>certainly not going to come back, and as good
>Christians we all believe he has gone somewhere better
>than here. We do wish we could have had him around a
>bit longer, though.

It seems that those with any type of affliction are more able to have empathy and compassion for others. I suppose you must suffer a bit yourself to see it and feel it in others and reach out to them. I'm sorry you lost him Roger. Perhaps his passing will help pull his family and friends closer together.

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Re: Losing a friend -- Rana, 03:41:51 12/29/07 Sat